I found myself laughing out loud at one point reading about the American reaction to a major event in the book, thinking it was so over-the-top to be absurd, and I had to remind myself that as a former BBC correspondent in America, the author knew precisely what he was writing about. It is this convincing detail of the political worlds involved that provided much of the pleasure for me.
This is a very interesting and skilfully crafted book. If you enjoyed “The West Wing”, you’ll love this. It has so much more to offer. The author takes you inside Downing Street as well as the West Wing (and the British Ambassador to America moves seamlessly between the two). We see the see American security forces dealing with a crisis (as well as trying to instigate and/or avoid World War III), the British security forces dealing with terrorism, we visit a grouse shoot in Scotland, and make an historical journey to the British forces in Northern Ireland.
My previous reading of Gavin Esler had alerted me to his ability to deliver sharp, witty prose, with pithy observations about political life, and this book delivered in abundance. And the political worlds that he describes in such detail provide a fascinating and authoritative backdrop to the action. Continue reading “Power Play: The Sex Games Are A Metaphor”
In effect, people are saying: “I am shocked. My foundations are no longer secure. You have done this too me. My evolutionary fight/flight emotions have been roused to tackle the sudden perceived threat. And I am going to attack, attack, attack!”
A Psychotherapist Visits Some Responses to the UK EU Referendum Result
It is early days yet, but in the brief time that has elapsed since the referendum decision for Britain to leave the EU, I have been struck by the intense emotional outpouring from many people about that decision.
Most of the emotion appears to have come from those who lost. There may be several reasons for that. Given the vitriol of the campaign, the winners may be striving to be magnanimous in silence, or they are just stunned at what has happened. If it is true that many of the winners were older, disaffected, and predominantly disadvantaged, their voices are perhaps disproportionately under-represented on TV and social media. Or perhaps it is just that the pain of loss is felt more deeply than the sweetness of joy.
As a jobbing psychotherapist I deal with the pain of loss on a daily basis and work with clients who are struggling to come to terms with the emotional tsunami that had hit them. Of course, there is no one template that fits all loss experiences, no neat stages that have to be followed, and certainly no quick fixes. However, there are common experiences that many people experience in their grief. And it is possible to see some of these grief experiences in the responses to Brexit by those who lost in the referendum. Continue reading “Post Brexit Grief Is Normal”
“No one ‘builds a house,” Tim Urban writes. “They lay one brick again and again and the end result is a house. Procrastinators are great visionaries — they love to fantasize about the beautiful mansion they will one day have built — but what they need to be are gritty construction workers, who methodically lay one brick after the other, day after day, without giving up, until a house is built.”
The lawn sat there accusingly, waiting to be cut. And it refused to go away or cut itself. The pile of bills sat there waiting to be paid. They wouldn’t pay themselves, and certainly didn’t do self-filing.
All procrastination is avoidance. It is a supposed coping strategy to help us face the future. However, as we know, procrastination can make the future worse rather than better. The long grass eventually clogged up the lawn mower. The black bills turned into red demands. Continue reading “11 Sure Ways to Beat Procrastination”
If Markdown is enabled on your device you can concentrate on writing and simply insert the style options with easy to remember characters.
Markdown is a simple way of styling text without having to search for particular buttons on your wordprocessor, and without having to learn complex HTML. It is an easy way for writers to convert text to HTML using just plain text. If Markdown is enabled on your publishing platform you can concentrate on writing and simply insert the style options with basic easy to remember characters. So, for example, you can easily insert bold, or italics, or subheaders, or lists, or active links, into your blogs, comments, and emails.
You can use Markdown on your WordPress blog if you enable this feature. To use Markdown in a WordPress post (blog or comment), you need to do the following:
- Login to your site.
- Click the “My Site” tab on the top left corner.
- In the left hand menu, select the bottom item “Settings”.
- At the top of the Settings page select the second tab along – “Writing”.
- About halfway down the page tick the box that says “Use markdown for posts and pages.” Then click “Save Settings”.
- Next, go to your compose screen. Enter your text as normal but include the Markdown stylings. Then click the “Preview” tab before posting just to check the text appears in the way you intended it to.
I have listed to basic Markdown elements below. Continue reading “Easily Format Your Blog With Markdown”
The final fifth of the book is a tour de force of careful unravelling of detail. The reader wants to know what happened to the final child, if he is still alive, and who (if anybody) took him. In the space of relatively few pages three separate explanations are given, one after the other. Each one is convincing at the time and leaves the reader satisfied until the ground we stand on is suddenly pulled away. I was left feeling sympathy for the police officers and something of their shock.
I was sitting up to 1:00am. I had to get to the end to understand what happened.
On the surface this may have a lot to put you off. All I can say is, “Don’t be put off by the surface.” If I tell you that it involves the death or disappearance of six children, the grief of one mother, the guilt and rejection of another, a war veteran with PTSD, and the rigours of the Falkland Islands’ landscape and water, you may want to put it down saying that it sounds too grim. However, despite that, it isn’t grim at all. In fact, it is one of the most optimistic books I have read for a long time. Ultimately friendship, care, and love triumph over the pain and losses.
The first part of the book is dominated by the grieving mother who has lost her two boys in a tragic accident that could have been avoided. We sit with her in her pain as she plots either the murder of the woman who could have prevented it and/or her own suicide. Sadly the Islands have a history of dead or missing children. At least two other boys have disappeared in recent history. We are jolted into the present as another boy disappears, and then another one.
Continue reading “Can Love Stop The Pain?”
Although, like many of his generation, he was forced to leave school at the age of 14, he was a very clever man. He could work out conundrums, or anagrams, or do the mental arithmetic on Countdown faster than his son or his son’s computer. One of the sadnesses for him of his final weeks was that his stroke left him unable to read the newspaper or do the daily crossword.
(Born, August 3rd 1920. Died, March 8th 1999.)
Edwin Rye (known as Ted) was the son of a Blacksmith.
He grew up in, and around, King’s Lynn, and joined the Royal Norfolk Regiment at the start of the Second World War. However, he was soon captured and spent most of the war in various European prison camps.
On returning home he joined his wife’s family businesses and for over a decade helped run a Cafe next door to the Police Station in King’s Lynn, and the Tower Restaurant in New Conduit Street. The family have many photos of dinner-dances at the Tower Restaurant and of Ted laughing or dancing and helping his customers celebrate with some enthusiasm!
After the collapse of the family businesses, Ted worked as a Canteen Manager at Lockwoods, and would sometimes travel to Long Sutton on Christmas Day to cook for many of the immigrant Italian work force. His son has fond childhood memories of rides through Sutton Bridge on a motor-scooter, and of arriving at the factory to eat his dad’s spaghetti and tomato sauce.
Continue reading “Blacksmith’s Son Beats Countdown”
Saying that I should not vote to leave because of opinions about particular individuals is an argument ad hominem which doesn’t address the crux of the issue, and therefore is irrelevant to me.
On June 23rd, 2016, I will be voting to support the notion that Great Britain should leave the EU. As an educated liberal and humanist, many of my friends and colleagues are surprised, even appalled at my decision. Although I disagree with them, I respect their right to passionately hold different views. However, I have set out my considered reasons for intending to vote for Brexit below.
Before coming on to reasons for voting to leave I need to comment on two reasons that are sometimes given for staying.
I am told that the people who are voting to leave are disreputable types whereas those wanting to stay are much more likeable. I am sure that both camps have angels and devils. Saying that I should not vote to leave because of opinions about particular individuals is an argument ad hominem which doesn’t address the crux of the issue, and therefore is irrelevant to me.
Continue reading “Three Reasons to Leave”